What
does it profit a woman to lose her composure over the price of another
woman’s shoes? What does it profit a man to bellyache over how much his
counterpart is earning rather than concentrating on counting the coppers
in his own coffers? What does it profit one to meddle in the affairs of
another, then peddle rumors one assumes as truths to all and sundry?
What really does it profit anyone to
take Panadol for someone else’s headache? What is the point of worrying
about what another is doing, earning, achieving or even involved in?
If I were to assign values to these
self-imposed tasks and worries, when tabulated they would surely add up
to a negative figure. It’s a waste of time, energy and opportunity.
If someone else occupies a position you
would like to attain: learn from them, study them, determine what they
did right to get there and if an opportunity presents itself ask them.
And if they are not as good or qualified as you, determine what they did
to get there anyway.
Determine whether it is something you
should adopt or shun, whether your sensibilities say it is a smart short
cut you are willing to take or a fork in the road you must ignore and
go straight. We are in a whole new world where working smart sometimes
pays more than working hard – sense over sweat is the 21st Century way.
If someone else is who you wish to be,
emulate the positives that individual portrays and leave the rest alone.
If you think that remuneration is unfair, that they do not deserve to
have the position or possessions, then you are over thinking things.
To what end does one make judgment calls
and determine how wealth should be distributed? If you think they do
not deserve to be there you clearly were not the one in charge of hiring
them, for if you were you would have made a different decision. So
unless you have been recently promoted to Head of Administration or Head
of Human Resources and it is currently your mandate to deliberate and
potentially reshuffle employees, then you are absolutely wasting your
time and energy dwelling on something that is quite frankly none of your
business.
While you concern yourself with
calculations of what another might be earning, you might be clocking
another month with no pay. Life is unfair sometimes, and apologies are
not owed from one person to another in matters such as these.
What you do owe yourself is to focus on yourself. To
worry about whether you are earning what you think you should, if you
are performing how you are supposed to, if you are even in the right
industry or country. Do not worry about whether her shoes are fake or
real, worry about how well you balance in your own heels. Do not worry
about how much his car cost, unless you have plans to be behind the same
wheel sat on the same seats– worry about getting your own to-do-list
done and your own trophy possessions won. Do not worry about how poorly
she may perform at her chosen profession, worry about the cues for your
life’s curtain call and whether you are performing on the right stage at
all.
It is easy to fall victim to such
behavior, especially when life seems unfair, but the truth of the matter
is victims by their very definition are individuals who are hurt,
killed, damaged or destroyed and that is no state of existence for one
who seeks success and self satisfaction. So rise above your fears and
show yourself some love by focusing on what matters and thus attaining
what you desire.
I may be wrong, but I propose that it
profits a man not when he worries more about calculating what the
occurrences in his counterpart’s life than focusing on his own life and
times.
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